Secrets to Success

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When it comes to finding a new romantic partner, things have changed.  In the past relationships were largely developed through chance meetings, setups from friends, or from friendships that flourished into something more.  Now, many men and women rely on the internet when it comes to finding a romantic partner.  Are you are interested in becoming one of those individuals?  If so, there are a few important things that you should know first.Perhaps, the most important thing to remember is that internet dating is not deemed one hundred percent safe.  Although, it is important to note that no form of dating is. The person that you meet at the local bar could be just as weird or as dangerous as someone who you meet online, but still you are advised to take a few precautionary measures.  These measures may include, but should not be limited to, giving out limited personal information and agreeing to meet an online date in a public location, not at your home. By understanding the importance of these and other precautionary measures, you should have fun using the internet to find a date.When it comes to finding an online date or romantic partner, there are many individual who flock to online dating websites.  Online dating websites are websites that allow you to meet other internet users.  You can not only view online pictures of these individuals, but learn more about them by reading their profiles and by making contact.  Depending on the online dating website you are using, you should also be able to use other services and features, should they be offered.Online dating websites are often referred to, well as, online dating websites.  Despite the fact that they have obtained their own unique title, did you know that online dating websites are also considered social networking websites? When it comes to social networking websites, many individuals automatically think of MySpace or something similar.  While these websites may not focus specifically on creating relationships, their purpose is the same. That purpose is to make it easier for internet users to connect with other internet users, especially ones that they share a common bond.Although most online dating websites will allow you to contact any online member, you are advised to search for those that share the same interests as you. This may help to give you better luck in the love department. In addition to love, it is also possible that you could find an online friend that you have a lot in common with. This online friendship could be great, especially if the love part didn’t work out as well as you had intended it to.  As previously mentioned, you will want to be cautious when it comes to setting up a first date between you and your online partner. First dates are scary, especially when they are with someone that you have never met before.  If you are concerned with your safety, you may want to join an online networking website or dating website that offers safe places for their members to meet. These places are often held in popular bars or night clubs on specific nights.  In addition to parties where you can meet up with your online friend or partner, you can also find dating websites that have speed dating parties.  If you are shy about meeting someone online, these types of get-togethers may be just what you need to break the ice.If you are interested in becoming one of the millions of internet users who use the internet to find love, you will need to find an online dating website or social networking website to join.  Most of these websites can be found with a standard internet search.  In your search, you will likely see that online dating websites tend to charge monthly fess, whereas traditional social networking websites do not.  If you are unsure as to whether or not you should pay the fee to join an online dating website, you are advised to ask for a free trail, if one is not already available.  These free trials may prove helpful in determining whether or not the online dating website you are interested in joining is even worth your time and money.

Because of this modern century we live in, we can do almost everything online. So, looking for online dates at totally free dating services has been popular in the last few years. There are million of women seeking men online at these free dating websites. Before the year of 2000, there was not any free dating site out there on the market. There are some paid dating services before 2000. Free dating services online have been booming in these eight years. Some big famous free dating services are plenty of fish, ok cupid, sugar daddy, and others. Well, these popular totally free online dating services have been helping many single women seeking for men and vice versa. The best part is that single women and single men do not pay any cost for using these dating sites. It is totally free for online singles to seek dates on the Internet. And, it is free.Women seeking men online are ready for a long-term relationship. They are available at any time. There are single women, single mothers, single moms, who joined these free dating sites to look for partners online. The same rule applies to men. Men seeking women at these free dating services are eager for a companion. They are looking for online dates. Single men and women need love. They do not want to go to the parks or social places to seek dates. These places have just friends but no dream mates. They join totally free online dating websites to seek their dream mates. Seeking for online dates is easy as when you make a cup of coffee. It takes you a few minutes to create a personal ad. It takes you a few clicks from your mouse to search for singles you like. It does not cost you any money to join and to interact with any single woman or man you like.Can you get any thing for free? You may get something for free online. The free stuff is usually not good or free stuffs are usually old. However, free online dating services give you free new stuffs. You can find your new partner online. There are million of singles that you can choose from. That’s great. Single women and men gather at one place and meet each other online. You should take an action now. Learn about these free dating sites for your own good before joining them is a good idea. If you are not familiar with free dating online before, then please spend some time to read the terms of use on these dating sites. All free dating sites have a few advertisements on their sites to pay for the host, domain, and labor. So, you will see some sponsored ads running on these free dating online services.Are you ready to meet your other half? As you know that being single is not fun. You should have a soul mate. Join these totally free online dating sites to meet that special someone of your dream.

You know guys who have women literally eating out of their hand. Admit it – you’ve envied them but you’ve said to yourself. “What a jerk, can’t she see through his antics?”; “Why don’t women go for me like they go for him? Can’t women see I am a genuine guy who is serious about wanting a relationship?”

The reason women don’t go for you – a genuine guy- who is seriously looking for a relationship is that you are most probably too serious.  Don’t get me wrong she is seriously looking for a relationship but it has to be fun to start off with. She wants a playmate too. She wants a man who can make her laugh.

Getting married, keeping house and having children is serious business and she wants it all, don’t be mistaken but she thinks all that is going to be fun. She sees the love stories on TV and in movies where the leading girl and guy are having fun. It all looks so enjoyable. So the first step to getting a woman is to make it enjoyable and fun.

You may not be the playful type. If you haven’t got a woman, it’s probably because you are a serious type; women don’t usually go for really serious guys. So lighten up. It’s OK to be serious at work, serious about playing chess or football but if you are serious about wanting a woman you must change your strategy, or you won’t get one.

It’s not easy to change overnight. It takes practice.  I’m going to show you how.

Rule No 1

You have to be out there and available to attract women.  You won’t get a woman whilst you are sitting at your computer.  You may be able to have an on-line woman but most of those don’t eventuate. They are Clayton’s dates. Be a real man and get yourself a real woman.

Set aside two nights a week for going out and looking for women. They are not going to come knocking on your door.   Or make it easy for yourself; go to a reliable introduction agency. Do your research, check out a few websites. Pay a visit before you join up; ask questions, ask to see testimonials, ask to talk to a client who is using the service.

If you join an introduction agency you won’t have to find women you will get a regular supply but you will have to allow time at least twice a week to meet women.

Rule No 2

Don’t expect to end up with the first woman you meet. Expect to have several ‘practice runs’ before you land the woman of your dreams.

If you expect the first woman you take out to be Ms Right you will get too serious too soon and blow it. Expect to burn a few along the way, and then you won’t be so disappointed.

Be careful what you think about before your speak to her, meet her for coffee or take her out on a date. If you keep imagining she will be Ms Right it will make you so nervous I guarantee you will blow it. Imagine each woman you meet is just going to be a friend and a practice run.

DON’T EXPECT MUCH. If you learn nothing else this is the key to having women eat out of your hand. Expect little. When you expect little you are more likely to relax, it is easier to tease and be cool if this woman is only a practice run.

Rule No.3

Flirt, be playful and make her laugh. “How on earth am I going to be playful and flirt?” you ask. You have never been a flirt but you have been a tease when you were younger.  All guys know how to tease. Women love to be teased they love the attention. You’ve teased your siblings or you’ve teased your dog so you know how to do it.

Unless you are a very experienced joke teller and you know you tell them well, forget that idea. You can make her laugh by telling her the funny things that happened at work. You can tell her stories against yourself. Women really appreciate men who can laugh at themselves – but not all the time.

One of the easiest ways to make her laugh is to tease her. She loves it because you are giving her attention and WOMEN LOVE ATTENTION.  If you have the opportunity – practice teasing your mother & sisters or the older women at work. It takes practice so you have to start somewhere.

You say, “I don’t want to get caught flirting with the older women at work”. No don’t flirt with them, just tease. The type of flirting you do with a NEW WOMAN is as tame as you would be with the older women at work. Practise on the tea lady or the woman behind the cafeteria counter.

No matter what all the men’s books on “How to be a Ladies Man” state, don’t dare try outrageously flirting by  touching, stealing a kiss or wrestling with her, or  any other direct method . You cannot afford to even dare try these methods with a new woman. It won’t win you brownie points; it is more likely that she will run for cover.

Because you are new at this make your flirting as innocent as you would tease the older women at work. If you make friends with her, then you can flirt outrageously but not before. Even then you might lose a good friend if you overstep the mark.  Now that I’ve warned you about seriously flirting, remember you must flirt, but gently.

No matter how gorgeous she is you can’t afford to take her seriously. You must tease and be playful to get her attention.  If you haven’t done your homework – PRACTISED BEFOREHAND- expect that your first few attempts may fail.

Rule No. 4

Women are turned on by attention. Women love you to remember what they have told you. Women love reliable men. Men who ring when they say they will.  Did you know MEN SEE – WOMEN FEEL? It’s how you make her feel that counts. If she is not at all interested in you but you are fun to be with, remember what you told her yesterday and ring her when you say you will, SHE WILL CHANGE HER MIND.

If you don’t think you can flirt or charm, you can listen. Shyness is usually caused by too much focus on one’s self.  If you are shy, you must make an effort to put an imaginary frame around her face and listen carefully to everything she says. Don’t peer to closely into her eyes.

Look at her nose and smile with your eyes while you are listening. Acknowledge what she is saying. You know – say things like “no kidding”, “really”. A really cool guy will say, “How did you feel about that?” or “That wouldn’t have made you too happy”, or “I’ll bet you were pleased about that”. Cool comments when used at the right time.

All women love a man who is a good listener. Harry was a shy country boy but he wasn’t too shy. Some guys’ shyness causes them to be so self absorbed that they don’t listen. Harry listened to women.

He was often seen sitting out dances listening to women, women of all ages. He won their hearts by just listening. He didn’t only listen to the pretty ones he listened to all of them. He eventually won the heart of a very pretty girl who loved the attention of a man who listened.

Rule No 5

SHOW OFF. Show her your strengths.  If you are reading this article, I take it you are not a great lover . . . YET . . . so don’t try getting her into bed on the first night.  Leave that until she is your best friend. It is much easier to seduce your best friend than it is to seduce a woman you hardly know. And you don’t want to be accused of “date rape”.

By strengths I don’t mean sexual pursuits but normal strengths. Everyone is good at something or knowledgeable about something. Whether it’s football, golf, art or music. Try to interest her in stuff that you are good at.

Everyone shines when they are good at something or knowledgeable. Knowledge is power, it’s your strength.  When she sees you at your best and most knowledgeable she won’t be able to resist you.Sue came to visit me at Entre Nous to report in about Graham she had recently met. Here’s her story:

I wasn’t at all interested in Graham but he invited me to go Kayaking. I had never been kayaking and really wanted to go but not with him. Anyway I said yes. The kayaking won. He came to pick me up. He had all the gear, was really well organised, knew what he was doing and we had such a good time. By the end of the afternoon I really liked him. We have been an item ever since.

If you take her to the football, keep up a running commentary. If you go to an art gallery, read up about the art beforehand. If it’s a play, know all the actors and directors off by heart beforehand. This is subtle showing off and will have her eating out of your hand, if you are well mannered and considerate, take an interest in her and listen to her and tease her and make the outing fun. If you are going to listen to music, make sure you know all about that music beforehand, DO YOUR HOMEWORK.

Rule No. 6

Make her feel appreciated

Of course you appreciate her or you wouldn’t be interested. It goes without saying! Doesn’t it? NO! Women have to be told over and over that you appreciate them every time you meet them. However you can’t say ‘good woman’ like you say ‘good dog’ to Rover. You must be much more subtle than that.

Notice things:” Is that a new outfit? It looks great. You hair’s different today, it really suits you.

Remember things she has said: You said your mother isn’t well yesterday, is she OK now? Your boss was giving you a hard time, has the situation improved? You said you were concerned about. ……… has there been any improvement?”  When you are enquiring about personal things she has told you ask in a confidential manner when you are alone.

Express how you feel about her: She should know how you feel about her but women need to be told every time you meet or talk on the phone. Don’t tell her she turns you on if you are still at the ‘just friends’ stage, it will scare her off.   Here are some examples but you know what you like about her, tell her so:

“You have such a cute smile. I like they way you walk. I love the way you burst into laughter so easily. I love to hear you chatting on so easily. I love the way you twist your hair around your finger. I am impressed by your loyalty to your friends. I am impressed by your care for your family.”

If you notice her appearance, remember things she has told you, and express how you feel about her, you will have her eating out of your hand in no time.

Rule No 7

Ooze confidence socially

There is only one way you can do this and that is to practise being sociable with everyone you meet and act as though you are confident. If you act confidently, you will be surprised how your confidence will increase.  NEVER BE SELECTIVE WHEN PRACTISING.  You need to practise on everyone.

Have an extra little chat with people you would normally just say hello to. For people you would not normally speak to: say “hello”; in lifts, passing in corridors, in shops, wherever you are keep speaking to people. It may not be your style however it’s going to give you confidence socially and you need this confidence if you are going to impress her.

Confidence is power and women are impressed by powerful men.  It’s more important than good looks, height or money.

Now don’t say: “this is too hard and it’s not me”. If you keep doing the same old things you will end up with the same old result. You are reading this because you want women to eat out of your hand – so keep reading.

If you start saying “hello” to people in corridors without stopping, you will notice that people will make an effort to speak to you next time you pass.  Try to become popular. Popular people speak to EVERYONE, they are not choosey.

Popular people offer assistance when they can. Popular people listen to what others have to say and remember things that have been said so that they can follow up when appropriate.

Popular men speak to all women not just the attractive, single women.  Have you noticed how the playboy chats up all women – from 8 – 80 years, all sizes and shapes? He doesn’t differentiate.  By the time he gets to a stunning woman he is so practised he can charm her sox off on automatic pilot.

Become more sociable with your friends. Go out more. Don’t let your woman think you are a recluse. It would be no fun for her if you have no fun. Make an effort. It’s all part of practising.

Three very important tips to developing your social confidence are:1 Laugh at others’ jokes, whether they are funny or not. Be quick to laugh. Get into the habit of laughing more.2 Accept compliments with thanks and try to repay the compliment at the time. Always, always, always say something like: “Thanks, I was just admiring your …………..”3  Pay compliments when you think them. Don’t worry about whether your mates will get a swollen head, tell them when you think they are doing something great or look good.  This will get you into the habit of being able to comfortably compliment a woman without feeling awkward.

You have to start somewhere so start with your friends and family. Practise, practise, practise.  You can pretend to be confident but when you are tired or relaxed your inner self will let you down. You need to be used to this new confidence routine that’s why it’s important to practise.

The nice genuine guys who are a little on the shy side tell me that at nightclubs the used car salesmen get all the good looking women.  Yet girls tell me that the only guys they ever meet at nightclubs are used car salesmen.  The used car salesmen have developed confidence through their job.

However most girls are inclined to think of the used car salesman as superficial because he is not at all subtle and comes on too strong too soon.

Most men shy away from really beautiful women. They don’t have the confidence to approach them. We find at Entre Nous dating agency that we seem to get more than our share of the stunningly beautiful women because men are afraid to approach them.

At an Entre Nous Spring Madness Ball, the most beautiful woman in the room with a Barbie doll figure complained that no one asked her to dance.

You can have a very beautiful woman, all you have to do is have the confidence and know that you most probably won’t have much competition.

Rule No 8

Get Away with Touching

You will need to be very careful about touching a new woman but with practise you can get away with heaps.  It’s all to do with confidence. The secret is not to overdo it. Try touching all women so that you develop confidence within yourself.

When you are ushering a woman ahead of you through doorways etc. Touch her shoulder ever so lightly.  When you open a car door, offer your hand to help her out of the car – it’s up to her to let go, don’t you let go.

At the water cooler touch her hand when you pass her a drink or in bars touch her hand as you give her a drink. Take her arm or touch her elbow, when you cross the road. Now out of date was the lighting of a cigarette, you touched her hand ever so slightly as you protected the flame from the wind.

When you tease a woman you can take something of hers and force her to touch you to get it back, but only if you have learned to be quick to laugh. When you develop confidence you can ask for a kiss in return. If you think she likes you, you can play truth or dare whilst walking or travelling.

Dare her to wear your tie; kiss your hand, hold your hand all the way up the street.  If she does, make sure you stroke it ever so lightly, so gently that she couldn’t complain.

Touching a woman inappropriately will send her off in the opposite direct so fast you will not know what’s hit you – unless she hits you. Whereas if you are really gentle and subtle, you will be amazed at how often you can touch her.

Rule No 9

Accepting Rejection

No one likes rejection. You can avoid it by not doing anything or you can be subtle in the way you approach women.  The Playboy has a very tough skin, he can be as cheeky as he likes and sometimes he gets away with it and other times he doesn’t – he gets rejected. He can take it; it’s all part of the game.

I have given you enough suggestions to develop your confidence, however if you touch women inappropriately or try to be too familiar too soon you will certainly be rejected.  If you don’t want to have your new self confidence shattered, be subtle.

Do you want the type of woman who accepts an overly familiar approach? No, of course not, because she would be too easy with every guy.

You will be rejected for sure if you keep trying to attract women but as you develop confidence and become astute at knowing how to avoid rejection, your rejections will become fewer and fewer.  It is better to be less daring and have fewer rejections.

Don’t try to emulate the superficial used car salesmen or the experienced playboy, develop your own style which is sensitive, genuine and caring of women.

Rosalind Baker is the Principal and Founder of Entre Nous Introduction Agency www.entrenous.com.au and author of 3 best sellers, Dial A Woman, Dial A Man and Dial A Personality

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The market for men seeking to date, form relationships and even marry Russian women (and women from the various Republics inside the former USSR) has never been larger, and seems to be growing every day. A quick search of the subject on Google or some other search engine will get you literally thousands of hits and offer you literally hundreds of choices as far as what services to use. However, as all too many men have found in the last few years, there are also a lot of scams and con games out there. And the tragic part about it is most of the men who have been scammed in the past could have avoided it by taking a few simple, common sense precautions.

The fact that there are people out there looking to take advantage of men who are in the Russian women relationship/marriage market is not surprising. Finding someone to share your life with tends to be a very difficult and very emotional process under any circumstances – and people tend to be at their most vulnerable when it comes to matters of the heart. Still, even in matters of the heart, it is also vitally important that people use their heads as well. Here are a few quick, simple, common sense tips to help you avoid the scam artists and conmen (and women) and aid you in your search for the perfect match.

 

 

 

 

Everyone’s perfect match is out there somewhere, but there are also a lot of sharks circling in those particular waters. By taking a little extra time and making certain that the agency you choose can provide you with the tools you need to make an informed decision you can save yourself time, money, heartache – and move many steps closer to finding that special person to share your life with.